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Girls? You want to know where the best place to find a date is? Listen to the words of the old song, “where the boys are.” That is where you will find a date. Honestly, where you will find men is the best place to meet them. Need a new hammer? Head over to the local hardware store and check out the hammers and the men while you are at it. If anything, you have a perfect ice breaker if you do find a likely prospect. “Pardon me, which of these hammers would you recommend?” In my experience, most men love to talk to women, and they love to talk about tools, so before you know it you just might have date. I just hope for you sake he is done talking about hammers by then.
Local sporting events might be a good place to look too. If you are lucky enough to live near a college or university, you can attend their games for far less than what you would pay for professional sports. If you really are a devoted sports fan, then season tickets to the team of your choice can go a long way to making new friends for you. Can’t afford them? Pool resources with other people and work out a schedule for who uses the tickets and when. You have just expanded your circle of friends, possibly to your dating advantage.
Never turn down an invitation. Your friend asked you over for a party? Put on a bright smile and go, you never know when someone will have dragged their unattached cousin along with them. Unless you live in a rural area, you are probably surrounded by people at least part of each day, so smile and strike up conversations wherever you go. If nothing else, you will be sharpening your social skills.
If you are truly, painfully shy though, and none of your friends is willing or able to set you up with a date, then you might consider online dating. There are countless dating sites, offering nearly every niche and taste imaginable. There is literally something for everybody on the Internet, you simply have to know where to look. Check out the bigger name sites first and see if you are at all interested. The better sites allow you to look around before you actually sign up, so keep that in mind before you sign up. Do not get roped into a lengthy contract before you know exactly what you expect to find from the site itself and from any potential matches. Some sites have listings for marriage minded as well as people only looking for casual dating, so know what you want and what you are getting.
If the Internet is really not for you and you are just not meeting the right person, consider the speed dating events that are held in most major cities. You sit at a table while a volley of men sit across from you and attempt to dazzle you in five minutes. A bell rings, and a new man takes the seat and gives the same thing a try. At the end of the night, you rate the men and whether or not you would consider an actual date with them or not. The events get high reviews from participants for the most part, and if they work, why not?
In the end, you know yourself and your tastes better than anybody else does. You don’t go looking for a husband in a bar and you don’t try to hook up for a one night stand with the choir master at your local church. Know what you will want and that will narrow down your searching spots. Happy hunting!
Food is more than fuel for our bodies, especially on a date. It becomes a celebration, a first impression and an ice breaker if all else fails. If you are dating someone for the first time, and you would like for it to go well, then you most choose the restaurant with the utmost care and attention to detail. One bad move and you could ruin what might have been the beginning of something beautiful. On the other hand, a really good choice could very well save you from sheer disaster.
If this is a first date, then take the time to get to know a little bit about your companion’s preferences. There is nothing worse than showing up in front of the local steak house only to find out that your date is a die hard vegetarian. If you know any of her friends or family, pick their brains for her favorite meals, or any other tidbits. It will make you look like a very caring man and you start the evening off already ahead on point.
Skip the five star places, you will either come off looking pretentious or pathetic. Save those places for special occasions later in the relationship. On the other hand, don’t go totally cheap and try a fast food place either; nothing says I don’t care like a date that starts off with talking into a plastic clown head. Your best bet is to choose a mid-price, sit down type restaurant with a wide ranging menu. Most places can accommodate special requests, so don’t be afraid to ask.
Choosing a good restaurant for your date also means choosing to dress appropriately and to use good manners as well. Don’t think you are going to get very far with a date if you have just walked up to the door of a very nice, Italian restaurant in cut off jeans and flip flops. Humiliation is not an aphrodisiac, trust me. Do show up nicely dressed, and hold the door open for her, good manners never go out of style.
At the table, decide whether or not you will order for both of you, or if she would prefer to give her selection to the server herself. Some women think that is urbane and sophisticated, others find it creepy and demeaning, so ask first. Watch for her cues for your own behavior. If she does not even glance at the wine menu, ask if she would mind if you had a glass first, she might be anti-alcohol, and your glass of wine may just cost you, big time.
Definitely offer her dessert. If she refuses, but does so rather reluctantly, then order her something to go, or offer to split her choice with her. (If it is chocolate, you will have earned major brownie points, pardon the pun).
Lastly, when the check comes, don’t make some huge production about paying it. If she wants to pay part, and you want to pay the whole thing, do not ruin a nice evening with an argument. Suggest that she pay the tip, or pay for the movie. Or better yet, tell her that she can buy the meal on your next date. You have just deflected potential hurt feelings, and asked for a second date in one smooth move. You have to admire an efficient man!
I know what everyone is thinking. You all think that I am going to say a bar is the best place to meet people. Not true! A bar is the best place to meet drunk people. Period. If you want to meet nice, friendly, non-drunk people, you have to go to other places. For instance, there are non drunk people at your job, right? If you work in a fairly large company, there are probably people you have not met, so go ahead and introduce yourself.
A little on the shy side? Consider a sports team as a way to break the ice. Sign up for the company softball team or agree to be an organizer for the next fun run. Not only will you be meeting people, you will be viewed as a real team player and that can come in handy when its time to do the next employee evaluations.
If you are self employed or work for a small company, then quit! But seriously, there are still places for you to meet people. Join a club or become active in your neighborhoodís groups. Start visiting the local coffee shop, just to hang out. Force yourself to strike up a conversation with at least one person before you are allowed to head back home. Figure out what interests you and talk about it.
If money is not an issue for you, perhaps you could take a guided tour to a place that you have never been. Make sure that you do not get booked on to one of the happy couple type excursions, ask if the travel agent has any singles specific tours. If you do not connect with someone on the trip, at least you can start a conversation with the girl at the photo lab, right?
If you are a parent, get involved with activities at your child’s school. Your kid may not like it, but you will be meeting all kinds of people. Can anybody say, soccer moms? If you are not a parent you could still volunteer at youth groups and such, but that might come off as a little creepy to some people, definitely not the impression you want to make on a potential date.
Honestly, you want to know where the best place to meet people is? Wherever there are people. If you are out shopping, go to the sections where your desired target would be. Looking for a woman? Head to the women’s department, but do not stand there and watch her shop for a bra. Gee, do I ever hate that! If you are looking for a man, head to a man type section of the store. I once struck up a conversation with a man in the fishing lure section of a well known store. I will let you in on a little secret: I have not interest whatsoever in fishing, but it gave me a great opening line to work with.
Unless you are a hermit, you are surrounded by people at least part of each day. Smile sweetly and say good morning wherever you go. You never know, that might be just the opening that shy little cutie has been waiting for!